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How To Fight Fair

How to Fight Fair

How to Fight Fair

Conflict in any relationship is inevitable. Research by The Gottman Institute shows that 69 % of conflict in relationships is about unsolvable, perpetual problems. 16 % of those perpetual issues involve gridlock couple conflict. So, with all this conflict flying around, what can couples do? This is where couples therapy comes in. The goal of relationship counseling is to help couples manage their conflict and learn how to fight fair.

Here are 10 things to NOT do in a fight:

1. No name calling
2. No interrupting
3. No blaming or accusations
4. No cussing
5. No yelling
6. No sarcasm
7. No defensiveness
8. No generalizations
9. No physical/emotional intimidating, gestures, violence, or threats
10. No walking out without naming a follow up time

Even though conflict is a part of any relationship, it matters how you fight and how you repair. As a marriage counselor, I teach my clients how to avoid the four horsemen of the apocalypse and work on managing their conflict. What are the four horsemen you ask? Read my previous blog post about the four horsemen here. If you find that you and your significant other are having difficulty managing your conflict, then it may be time to seek relationship counseling. If you find yourself name calling, interrupting, getting defensive, or yelling at your spouse, then it may be time to seek marriage counseling. Let Building Blocks Family Counseling help you fight fair and manage conflict. Schedule your appointment with us today (click here).

Ashley Moore

Ashley Moore

I am a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in relationship issues in the Pooler, GA area. I received my Bachelor’s Degree in Psychology with a minor in Sociology from Valdosta State University in 2008. During this time, I discovered my passion was working with couples and families in a therapeutic setting. This led me to complete my Master’s Degree in Marriage and Family Therapy from Valdosta State University in 2010. I specialize in working with couples dealing with premarital issues, infidelity, communication issues, conflict, intimacy issues, parenting, etc. I also work with parents and their children (ages 2-6) experiencing behavior issues. I am currently a level one Gottman trained couples therapist as well as Certified Prepare/Enrich Facilitator. I am also currently working on my PCIT Certified Therapist credential. For more information on Parent Child Interaction Therapy (PCIT) see here (link to PCIT service page). I also provide supervision to associate level therapists and am an AAMFT Approved Supervisor.